The first one who takes our breath away isn’t always the one who will resuscitate us.
When the thighs stop tingling, and the heart doesn’t skip a beat anymore, all is not lost, don’t give up. We have to be open to who and what stands in front of us, without any unreal expectations or drama, and remember why we chose them.
It is an odd presumption to think that the relationship we have with our partners, family or friends will always be the same — wanting consistency that belongs to a past come and gone is root cause of the meltdown. Everyone, and everything, changes.
The only way to sustain a relationship is to accept this truth.This, meaning nothing will be the same as it was when you first met, and trying to keep it in its original form is the portal to breaking bad. You may grow together, or grow apart. That is life, and it is simple, but there are a few things to consider for keeping the fire alive inside.
1. The kiss.
Going in… be a friend before being a lover, and don’t forget to kiss that friend long and deeply.
Eventually the honeymoon will be over, and having a best friend who is your lover is far better than having a lover who doesn’t have the capacity to be your friend. That is the beauty of growing old together hand in hand, without having to sacrifice passion.
Touch is everything — our bodies long for it no matter what the age of the relationship is, and a gentle come and get me look coupled with the knowledge of how you know each other can set the friendship aflame.
2. Leave the psychic ability to the Psychic.
Get this embedded into your heart. The trap of they should know better is the gateway to disappointment, and is selfish and unyielding. The Male mind doesn’t work like the Female version does — end of story. Communicate. Asking in earnest usually equates to compliance instead of anger and resentment.
The respect grows, and heightens love.
3. Don’t take on a hot mess.
If there are red flags at the onset, heed them — because nothing will change.
Your heart will tell you. Listen, or pay the price. It is a hard road to walk if we allow someone into our world just to fill the void, and if you think you will be the catalyst for them (for better behavior) you are sadly mistaken. Don’t let your ego/pride fool you. That is when we end up more alone than before, broken and empty.
4. We are who we are. Period.
We don’t have to be loud about it, but we don’t need to hide what we love to do, to feel, or how we like to be.
If you are ashamed or fearful of their reaction, perhaps they are not The One. Being anyone less than you are, for the sake or the fear of losing out on love, is disrespecting your own Soul. A true partner accepts us (every inch) just as we accept them.
If they cannot understand you at the early stage of the relationship, then bow out — it will not be any different down the road.
5. For the love of Love, drop your sword.
Battles are futile, and what purpose does it serve to fight? The answer is: None. There is no winner, only pain. Stand your ground with love, not ego. Respectful discussions are brilliant, and you don’t have to agree on everything, ever.
Remember that friend from the first point above? Now listen to them (our partners) as you would your best friend, and listen openly. More often than not, you will see something you didn’t see before.
6.Give each other time and space — it is the gift of being true.
Being tied to the hip is a sure sign of co-dependency, control issues and non-trust. Everyone needs room to breathe. It honors the heart/mind body and soul. Space allows freedom, and freedom makes coming together hotter, vivid, alive.
7.Stand tall — if the relationship ends, it was not meant to be.
Thank them. You two came together for many reasons. Maybe you can walk on with peace and dignity.
Sometimes, it is easy to remember them when, yet we don’t remember why. We long for the new, but stay in the old. We want to feel like we did at one time, instead of feeling what it is to be complete and in the moment.
It isn’t a dream, awaken now — the moment is here in front of our eyes.
So exit conclusions, and enter beginnings, no matter how old or long it has been. Life is change — let it change. Change is good, let it come to you. Good is when you let it happen, and the happening is right now. Reach in, release it, and set it free.
Lastly, the heart may feel disappointed and broken for the moment, but all a broken heart means is that you are truly open, and in time you will heal. The pain is temporary, and can be a beautiful reminder of just how alive you are.
I reiterate, love them, thank them, and carry on. (dl)
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